For many women whose workability is limited by disability, the question of their own sexuality becomes important, since they believe that it is intimate relationships that can allow them to maintain old and build new relationships with their spouse.
This is true: the attraction and methods of expression in a disabled woman can be completely unusual, not inherent in anyone else, which sometimes leads to a very deep understanding with a partner.
Even if the physical capabilities of a woman are limited, she can invent hundreds of options for manifestation of her intimate feelings. She can try, experiment, finding what exactly excites her and satisfies the most. Moreover, this applies to both completely inexperienced women and those who, before the injury or disease, had a positive or negative their own experience of intimate relationships.
The participation of a partner along this path of trial, errors and acquisitions brings together as no other joint actions.
Of course, there are some general recommendations that can facilitate intimate searches for you.
First, estimate, which pose will be the most comfortable, painless, comfortable for you. If there are diseases or damage to the joints, before starting sex, take a warm shower or bath, open the joints, do several exercises.
Spread the mattress on the floor so that there is no risk to fall. In addition, a too soft bed can be uncomfortable. Be sure to buy good and high -quality bedding, such as in the photo. For example, here – a huge selection, acceptable prices.
Remember that a person has daily rhythms of sexuality. Since this concept is not one for everyone, try to make love at different times of the day to feel when it brings more pleasure. If you own deep breathing methods, you should do them before the start of intercourse – this will help to relax, it is better to adopt to the partner. In addition, it is useful to experiment with the rhythm, depth and direction of male movements.
Starting preliminary caresses, remember that the genitals can significantly moisturize. If moisture is scarce (from hormonal or age-related problems, the use of some drugs, the underlying disease, etc.), you should take care of additional lubrication in advance. Do not use petroleum jelly – it does not give sufficient moisture, but can serve as a nutrient medium for the growth of the fungus. It is better to buy a special moisturizing gel. If you are prone to infection, you can use synthomycin emulsion, which, giving sufficient moisture, simultaneously kills microbes locally.
Can a woman with disabilities experience an orgasm and satisfaction? Of course, the vast majority of women with disabilities may have sexual satisfaction, and more than 70 % of women – and orgasm. Remember that an orgasm is a biological reaction of the body to stimulation, and satisfaction is a psychological feeling.
One woman told me that until 34 years old she experienced either orgasm or satisfaction from her intimate relationships. Then she became a disabled person, left her husband, again got married. Her new husband turned out to be very caring and tender. It was with him that she came to the conclusion that she was looking in sex not at all what it made sense to look. It turned out that the most important thing in sex for them with her husband is mutual tenderness, warmth of body and soul, support, approval, care – and a thousand more things that have no name, but are not at all an obligatory part of sex.
So, how many women are so many opinions: for some sexual success, this is owning the heart and soul of a partner, for others – the experience of orgasm as a unique moment of life, for the third – the passion of a man, for fourth – the opportunity to give something that other women do not have.
Based on material from the magazine “Social Protection”