If your residence was earlier separately, with your parents, then moving from them and the creation of a new family will be a blow to them, and this does not depend on that you live in thousands of km from your loved ones or in the next room. If you have problems with housing, then live absolutely yourself, avoiding your mother in your family problems, is quite real. The most important thing is that you need to explain to parents once and for all that you are an independent family in which your foundations and your budget. Of course, resentment will be on their part, but all this will survive. It is necessary to live in peace and harmony, and for this you need to observe the so -called transit principle: if the couple lives with the husband’s parents, the wife must build relationships. And also, on the contrary, to make contact with the parents of the wife should be a husband. It will be very good if the couple agrees on this in advance.
If you all take it on the shoulders of your half, then conflicts simply cannot be avoided. The husband should know how to behave with the mother -in -law: you need to show courteousness and gallantry. The wife, in turn, undertakes to know how to reconcile and curb the mother -in -law: first of all, to be willing to always help around the house and goodwill. Do not allow mothers in family affairs. Tactfully remove them, because your mother will not forgive you for this, but having implemented her soul mate, the problem may be solved.